Chapter 15
Jealousy
People Affected: men feeling monogynic love
Type of Emotion: conceptual coercion
Conceptual Trigger: “ the woman I love made another man feel sexual pleasure ”
Mental Effect: negative
Conceptual Stop: “ I harmed the woman I love as much she made another man feel sexual pleasure ”
Key Feature: the stronger the other man’s pleasure, the stronger the effect
Voluntary Expression: anger
Synonym: not envy
Type of Emotion: conceptual coercion
Conceptual Trigger: “ the woman I love made another man feel sexual pleasure ”
Mental Effect: negative
Conceptual Stop: “ I harmed the woman I love as much she made another man feel sexual pleasure ”
Key Feature: the stronger the other man’s pleasure, the stronger the effect
Voluntary Expression: anger
Synonym: not envy
Purpose
Jealousy encourages men to punish female infidelity. Punishing female infidelity prevents men from mistakenly investing 42 months in another man’s child, a worst case scenario for a man’s genes.
Female jealousy did not evolve. Male infidelity cannot cause a woman to mistakenly invest in another woman’s child. Princess Diana knew that her sons were hers. Prince Charles does not.
Women can feel humiliation, heartbreak and revenge if a man commits infidelity. These negative effects are mistakenly believed to be female jealousy.
Women feel humiliation if infidelity lowers their rank. If a woman is the last to know about her man’s infidelity, it lowers her rank.
Women feel heartbreak if they were infatuated and the infidelity was more than sex. If a man buys another woman presents, he wants to make her happy. If he wants to make her happy, he loves her.
Women also feel revenge when humiliated or heartbroken. A woman’s revenge is stopped by harming the man as much as she was harmed by humiliation or heartbreak.
Jealousy and revenge are different. Female infidelity causes men to feel jealousy, whether they feel humiliated or not. Male infidelity causes women to feel revenge, but only if they feel humiliated or heartbroken.
Conceptual Trigger
Jealousy can be triggered by any sexual pleasure, not just penile. Jealousy is triggered when another man enjoys visual pleasure while looking at a woman. This encourages men to punish the earliest stages of courtship. Punishing early courtship prevents escalation to sex. Punishing penile pleasure would be too late.
Jealousy is only triggered when monogynic love is active. If a man fell in love more than 42 months ago, he will not feel jealousy if his woman flirts with another man. After 42 months, a man should be on a new reproductive cycle with a new woman.
Women often trigger jealousy to verify monogynic love. Women intuitively know that a jealous man is a man in love. A woman will flirt with other men just to see if it triggers jealousy in her man. If it does, he must be in love.
Mental Effect
Jealousy encourages men to punish female infidelity. Punishing female infidelity prevents men from mistakenly investing 42 months in another man’s child, a worst case scenario for a man’s genes.
Female jealousy did not evolve. Male infidelity cannot cause a woman to mistakenly invest in another woman’s child. Princess Diana knew that her sons were hers. Prince Charles does not.
Women can feel humiliation, heartbreak and revenge if a man commits infidelity. These negative effects are mistakenly believed to be female jealousy.
Women feel humiliation if infidelity lowers their rank. If a woman is the last to know about her man’s infidelity, it lowers her rank.
Women feel heartbreak if they were infatuated and the infidelity was more than sex. If a man buys another woman presents, he wants to make her happy. If he wants to make her happy, he loves her.
Women also feel revenge when humiliated or heartbroken. A woman’s revenge is stopped by harming the man as much as she was harmed by humiliation or heartbreak.
Jealousy and revenge are different. Female infidelity causes men to feel jealousy, whether they feel humiliated or not. Male infidelity causes women to feel revenge, but only if they feel humiliated or heartbroken.
Conceptual Trigger
Jealousy can be triggered by any sexual pleasure, not just penile. Jealousy is triggered when another man enjoys visual pleasure while looking at a woman. This encourages men to punish the earliest stages of courtship. Punishing early courtship prevents escalation to sex. Punishing penile pleasure would be too late.
Jealousy is only triggered when monogynic love is active. If a man fell in love more than 42 months ago, he will not feel jealousy if his woman flirts with another man. After 42 months, a man should be on a new reproductive cycle with a new woman.
Women often trigger jealousy to verify monogynic love. Women intuitively know that a jealous man is a man in love. A woman will flirt with other men just to see if it triggers jealousy in her man. If it does, he must be in love.
Mental Effect
Jealousy varies with the other man’s sexual
pleasure. The stronger the other man’s
sexual pleasure, the stronger the negative effect A man will feel weak jealousy if another man
looks at his woman. A man will feel much
stronger jealousy if another man is fellated by his woman.
The strength of jealousy determines the likelihood of punishment. A man may tolerate another man just looking at his woman, but he will not tolerate another man being fellated by his woman.
While the strength of jealousy determines the likelihood of punishment, the wording of its conceptual stop determines how much a man punishes a woman.
Conceptual Stop
Jealousy is stopped by harm equal to the other man’s pleasure. If a woman just flirted with another man, jealousy can be stopped by giving her the cold shoulder. If she fellated another man, jealousy may not be stopped until she is physically harmed.
Childless Relationships
The strength of jealousy determines the likelihood of punishment. A man may tolerate another man just looking at his woman, but he will not tolerate another man being fellated by his woman.
While the strength of jealousy determines the likelihood of punishment, the wording of its conceptual stop determines how much a man punishes a woman.
Conceptual Stop
Jealousy is stopped by harm equal to the other man’s pleasure. If a woman just flirted with another man, jealousy can be stopped by giving her the cold shoulder. If she fellated another man, jealousy may not be stopped until she is physically harmed.
Childless Relationships
Jealousy is frequently triggered during the 38 month gap of childless relationships. Since women do not feel maternal love, they seek new men to trigger their infatuation. While women may not have sex with other men during this period, they will enjoy flirtation with other men, which triggers jealousy in the man that loves them.
Jealousy and Envy
Jealousy and Envy
Jealousy and envy are not synonyms.
Jealousy can only affect men in love. Envy can affect everyone.
Jealousy and envy are triggered by different conclusions. Jealousy is triggered when women commit infidelity. Envy is triggered when a peer’s rank rises above your rank.
Jealousy and envy are both negative mental effects.
Jealousy is stopped by punishing a philandering woman. Envy does not have a conceptual stop. Envy only stops when the conceptual trigger is no longer true. Either your rank rises to your peer’s level or your peer’s rank falls back to your level.
Jealousy can only affect men in love. Envy can affect everyone.
Jealousy and envy are triggered by different conclusions. Jealousy is triggered when women commit infidelity. Envy is triggered when a peer’s rank rises above your rank.
Jealousy and envy are both negative mental effects.
Jealousy is stopped by punishing a philandering woman. Envy does not have a conceptual stop. Envy only stops when the conceptual trigger is no longer true. Either your rank rises to your peer’s level or your peer’s rank falls back to your level.
Happiness Dissected is a more practical version of The Origin of Emotions.