Chapter 9
Monogynic Love
People Affected: men in a relationship of less than 46 months
Type of Emotion: conceptual reward
Conceptual Trigger: “ the woman I love is happy ”
Mental Effect: positive
Key Feature: activation requires strong visual/audible pleasure
Key Feature: activation requires suddenly strong affection
Key Feature: activated after 4 months of daily interaction
Key Feature: cannot be activated by more than one woman at a time
Key Feature: cannot be activated by previous women
Key Feature: cannot be activated by kin or friends
Key Feature: the happier the woman, the stronger the effect
Key Feature: has a duration of 42 months for each woman
Key Feature: ends 4+42=46 months after meeting a woman
Type of Emotion: conceptual reward
Conceptual Trigger: “ the woman I love is happy ”
Mental Effect: positive
Key Feature: activation requires strong visual/audible pleasure
Key Feature: activation requires suddenly strong affection
Key Feature: activated after 4 months of daily interaction
Key Feature: cannot be activated by more than one woman at a time
Key Feature: cannot be activated by previous women
Key Feature: cannot be activated by kin or friends
Key Feature: the happier the woman, the stronger the effect
Key Feature: has a duration of 42 months for each woman
Key Feature: ends 4+42=46 months after meeting a woman
Purpose
Monogynic love encourages men to support the mother of their children.
Monogynic love encourages social, not sexual monogyny. While monogynic love does encourage men to support one woman, it does not discourage men from having sex with other women. Male infidelity does not jeopardize maternal post-natal care. Maternal love ensures that mothers will care for a man’s children.
Activation
Monogynic love encourages men to support the mother of their children.
Monogynic love encourages social, not sexual monogyny. While monogynic love does encourage men to support one woman, it does not discourage men from having sex with other women. Male infidelity does not jeopardize maternal post-natal care. Maternal love ensures that mothers will care for a man’s children.
Activation
Monogynic love is activated when the
total of visual/audible pleasure and affection reaches a threshold. Activation specifically requires both strong
visual/audible pleasure and suddenly strong affection within 4 months. Simply put, men fall in love when they interact
with an attractive, new woman for 4 months.
Requiring strong visual/audible pleasure ensures fertility. Visual/audible pleasure is triggered by features that separate pre-menopausal, non-pregnant women from other humans. Protruding breasts and wide hips are two examples.
Requiring strong visual pleasure for 4 months ensures non-pregnancy prior to courtship. Strong visual pleasure is triggered by an hourglass figure: protruding breasts, narrow waist and wide hips. If a woman was impregnated by another man prior to courtship, she would lose her narrow waist and her hourglass figure by month 4.
Requiring suddenly strong affection ensures sexual exclusivity during courtship. To trigger strong affection in 4 months, a woman must spend most of her free time with a man. During this time, she would not have time to court another man.
Requiring suddenly strong affection also excludes previous women. Because they are familiar, previous women cannot trigger suddenly strong affection. This encourages men to change partners every reproductive cycle, which increases the genetic diversity of their offspring.
Requiring suddenly strong affection also excludes kin and friends. Because they are familiar, kin and friends cannot trigger suddenly strong affection. As a result, men can only fall in love with strangers.
Activation does not require copulation or pregnancy. Ideally, men would not fall in love until they copulated with and impregnated a woman. However, men cannot detect pregnancy until month 4 and monogynic love needs to be activated at impregnation.
Monogynic love cannot be activated by more than one woman at a time. This ensures that men focus their post-natal support on one woman.
Monogynic love is disproportionately activated by women that look maternal. The more a woman looks like a man’s mother, the stronger the affection she triggers in him. The stronger the affection a woman triggers in a man, the sooner she reaches his activation threshold. Simply put, men tend to fall in love with women with the same eye color, hair color, skin color and facial bone structure as their mothers. This encourages mating with compatible genes.
Conceptual Trigger
Monogynic love is triggered by making a woman happy.
Before birth control, making a woman happy made a man’s child happy. Women usually became pregnant when men fell in love.
With birth control, making a woman happy does not make a man’s child happy. For childless women, maternal love is not the primary source of happiness. Instead, pride usually is. Pride is triggered by increased rank and diamond rings are a good way to increase rank. Diamond rings sales accelerated after the advent of the birth control pill in 1961.
Monogynic love is triggered regardless of who makes a woman happy. Men feel love when their children make their woman happy, which avoids men competing with children for a mother’s attention.
Mental Effect
Requiring strong visual/audible pleasure ensures fertility. Visual/audible pleasure is triggered by features that separate pre-menopausal, non-pregnant women from other humans. Protruding breasts and wide hips are two examples.
Requiring strong visual pleasure for 4 months ensures non-pregnancy prior to courtship. Strong visual pleasure is triggered by an hourglass figure: protruding breasts, narrow waist and wide hips. If a woman was impregnated by another man prior to courtship, she would lose her narrow waist and her hourglass figure by month 4.
Requiring suddenly strong affection ensures sexual exclusivity during courtship. To trigger strong affection in 4 months, a woman must spend most of her free time with a man. During this time, she would not have time to court another man.
Requiring suddenly strong affection also excludes previous women. Because they are familiar, previous women cannot trigger suddenly strong affection. This encourages men to change partners every reproductive cycle, which increases the genetic diversity of their offspring.
Requiring suddenly strong affection also excludes kin and friends. Because they are familiar, kin and friends cannot trigger suddenly strong affection. As a result, men can only fall in love with strangers.
Activation does not require copulation or pregnancy. Ideally, men would not fall in love until they copulated with and impregnated a woman. However, men cannot detect pregnancy until month 4 and monogynic love needs to be activated at impregnation.
Monogynic love cannot be activated by more than one woman at a time. This ensures that men focus their post-natal support on one woman.
Monogynic love is disproportionately activated by women that look maternal. The more a woman looks like a man’s mother, the stronger the affection she triggers in him. The stronger the affection a woman triggers in a man, the sooner she reaches his activation threshold. Simply put, men tend to fall in love with women with the same eye color, hair color, skin color and facial bone structure as their mothers. This encourages mating with compatible genes.
Conceptual Trigger
Monogynic love is triggered by making a woman happy.
Before birth control, making a woman happy made a man’s child happy. Women usually became pregnant when men fell in love.
With birth control, making a woman happy does not make a man’s child happy. For childless women, maternal love is not the primary source of happiness. Instead, pride usually is. Pride is triggered by increased rank and diamond rings are a good way to increase rank. Diamond rings sales accelerated after the advent of the birth control pill in 1961.
Monogynic love is triggered regardless of who makes a woman happy. Men feel love when their children make their woman happy, which avoids men competing with children for a mother’s attention.
Mental Effect
Monogynic love varies with a woman’s happiness. The happier a woman is, the stronger the positive effect. Men feel stronger love when they see their women smile.
Monogynic love varies indirectly with a child’s happiness. For women with children, maternal love is their primary source of happiness and it varies with a child’s happiness.
Monogynic love varies indirectly with a child’s happiness. For women with children, maternal love is their primary source of happiness and it varies with a child’s happiness.
Monogynic love has a duration of 42 months. Monogynic love is usually activated after 4 months of courtship. Before birth control, the activation of monogynic love usually coincided with impregnation. Monogynic love stays active for 42 months to cover 9 months of gestation and 33 months of post-natal care. Monogynic love ends when a child is 33 months old, concurrent with the end of maternal love. Both sexes maximize reproduction by starting a new reproductive cycle when a child can feed itself.
The threat of monogynic grief also has a duration of 42 months.
Affection usually continues after monogynic love ends.
The threat of monogynic grief also has a duration of 42 months.
Affection usually continues after monogynic love ends.
Happiness Dissected is a more practical version of The Origin of Emotions.